Sex does nothing for me. The idea seems great in my head but when it comes to actually doing it, well, I'd rather watch a movie. Foreplay is the same way. It doesn't feel bad but it doesn't feel good either. It's just … neutral.

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Before I say anything else, I want to make sure that you understand that it's okay for you to simply not feel like having sex , and to decide to not have it for the time being. You say you don't like sex, and that's absolutely valid: We don't have to like it, at any given time or ever. Now, if you DO want to have sex, and just aren't sure how to have sex that's pleasurable to you, read on. It's very unlikely that childbirth had any effect on your ability to feel pleasure during sex. And you also mention being able to achieve orgasm via masturbation , so if that's also been true for you since you gave birth, you can be sure that we're not looking at a physical cause here.