Hand jobs are seriously underrated. At the same time, they're something many people without penises worry about getting right. It's definitely worth asking your penis-having partner what they like in an HJ - what speed, pressure and motion works for them. Because sometimes, you just cba with penetrative sex and there is nothing wrong with that, at all. Here, some people with penises have taken to Reddit to explain what makes a damn fine hand shandy.

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Hands down, hand jobs have the potential to be the most stressful of all the sex acts. Unlike the mighty and powerful blow job , they are not something that only you can do for your partner unless he's really flexible, in which case, lucky lady! And the scene can often play out as awkward: There you are, halfheartedly jerking your hands in an attempt to create a pleasurable experience for your partner — one that he had down to a science by age Before you let a defeatist attitude keep you from trying, remember: a lot of men love getting hand jobs, just like how you probably like require some digital action, too.